sometimes i wonder if i actively choose to make my life complicated or if im just complicated and i cant help it – its a part of me.
it seems like i cant stop aggravating people lately; whether intentional or not, i cant stop snipping at people, pulling away from the physical touch and acts of affection. maybe im too stubborn to admit that im not always right.
i guess you can call me a hypocrite – someone who constantly bitches, goes off for no reason in particular but cant handle being spoken to in a harsher tone of voice or yelled at (i retaliate or i crumble – fight or flight taking action).
i crumbled today.
my boyfriend takes the short end of the stick with my parents as a close second when it comes to my emotional outburts, my constant lashing out and fussiness, unwillingness to forgive and forget because i feel wronged (remember, im always the victim, at least in my eyes).
everyone keeps saying im too emotional.
what does it even mean to control your emotions?
i truly believe that im incapable of controlling my emotions (physically or emotionally) even with therapy, with benzos, with support and love.
sometimes i think my parents have started to love me less in the past few years because im a pain in the ass. even my boyfriend tells me that im wearing on him, with my constant chaos, explosive anger and uncompromising temperament. sometimes i feel like theyre obligated to love me, as if i were some chore on the list that needs to be dealt with.
my parents say their love is unconditional – but is it? theyll leave me one day and im terrified for that day.
and im scared my boyfriends going to get fed up and leave me, once he realizes im not worth the trouble – and i cant handle being alone. is it time to find other options in case he leaves me?
i dont think he can love me forever (people always leave).
when im mad, im fucking livid. and i want justice – for all the things wronged, things taken.
im toxic and i know it. i just cant help it.
i dont want to lose my relationship with my parents, but being scolded for having a voice, yelled at to “listen,” i cant handle it. i just left my parents home, still reeling, still angry despite all the shit theyre going through with my evil, deluded aunts (we can call them “thing 1” and “thing 2”; for what was supposed to be a relaxing staycation and an escape from my life as it is (i need to gain some clarity), it was a fucking disaster.
and im sorry to my parents, that i cant learn to shut the fuck up and i feel the need to interrupt because im tired of always listening, that theyre under a lot of stress unrelated to me but im selfish enough to just walk out anyway to prove that they can lose me if this trend continues.
and im sorry to my boyfriend, who i put down more than i want and i wear the passive aggression and use it against him. and when he snapped last weekend after bitch (me) was being a bitch, all i wanted was to escape to my parents home, a retreat to all thats familiar. i was so excited for this weekend.
but look how well that worked out? jokes on me.
and i wonder whether love can ever actually be unconditional, as i grind peoples gears and continually poke the bear to get some form of reaction.
i dont think anyone can love me unconditionally at this point. damaged goods and too many emotions and breakdowns – who wants trash?￼
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re feeling & going through this!! I struggle with my emotions as well, just got diagnosed with BPD. Been going to therapy for 5 years and have officially started a DBT program. I’m hoping it helps me with my anger. Best of luck to you!! 💗
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thank you so much! you have no idea how much this means to me w the last couple of days being so taxing emotionally. hope you are doing better and im always here if you want to chat or rant about anything! 🥺
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Of course!! I know how it feels, just remember emotions/feelings are temporary.. something my counselor is always saying to me 😆 If you’d ever like to chat as well I’m here too!! 💗
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ahhh my therapist says the same thing to me too! but i do like how shes gentle w me knowing i have fragile emotions HAHAH my bf thinks she spoils me and doesnt put me in my place enough hahahah